Comments on: Can sleep deprivation ruin a relationship? http://www.peltoreardefenders.com/can-sleep-deprivation-ruin-a-relationship.php Electronic Ear Defenders for Kids, Musicians, Shooting Sun, 20 May 2012 13:31:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: honey http://www.peltoreardefenders.com/can-sleep-deprivation-ruin-a-relationship.php/comment-page-1#comment-728 honey Mon, 12 Apr 2010 11:10:11 +0000 http://www.peltoreardefenders.com/can-sleep-deprivation-ruin-a-relationship.php#comment-728 I am in a similar situation. I wish I could have my own room. I have been with my husband for 9 years and in the last few years it has gotten worse, I think because he has gained weight and smokes. Each night I assess the situation. I go to bed after him. If he is snoring just alittle I sleep on the couch or with my son who has a double bed. I hate this because I dont want my kids seeing us sleeping apart(i dont want them to think it is "normal) but, I need to sleep! It does have an effect on our marriage and I get so angry that I cant sleep in our bed. I always point out daddys snoring and tell my kids that is why i dont sleep with him. They make fun of him also. I think you should make a plan to sleep in the guest bedroom every night, it will eventualy get to him and may change his mind. I have on a few occasions taped my husband just so he can see how loud he really is. I have called his cell and left him messages of him snoring. I did it for 2 weeks straight once when he was upset..poor baby, that I wasnt sleeping with him. He got the message but hasnt gone to a doctor. I thought about and even bought earplugs but, I was to scared to use them. He is a heavy sleeper and I was nervous that either one of us would hear if one of the kids needed us...me. I know if i used them I would never fall asleep. I would just keep trying to get him to see a doctor, tape him. Does he realize how loud he really is. You could tape him then when it was time for him to go to bed put the tape on just so he can see how awful it is to sleep next to him. I think I may try that! Everytime he wakes you up, wake him up. Have another talk with him about his snoring, tell him how unbearable it is and that everytime he wakes you up you are going to wake him up. He will get pissed!!! mine does but, he will know how it feels. I am so excited, my husband is going away for 5 days next week. I will get to sleep like a rock for the first time in a looong time. For me it hasnt ruined our relationship...I am not planning on divorcing him but it does have an effect, I get really angry. AND..he makes comments on the weekend that I sleep in...boohoo. I feel for you! I wish I had a solution for both of us. I am in a similar situation. I wish I could have my own room. I have been with my husband for 9 years and in the last few years it has gotten worse, I think because he has gained weight and smokes. Each night I assess the situation. I go to bed after him. If he is snoring just alittle I sleep on the couch or with my son who has a double bed. I hate this because I dont want my kids seeing us sleeping apart(i dont want them to think it is “normal) but, I need to sleep! It does have an effect on our marriage and I get so angry that I cant sleep in our bed. I always point out daddys snoring and tell my kids that is why i dont sleep with him. They make fun of him also.

I think you should make a plan to sleep in the guest bedroom every night, it will eventualy get to him and may change his mind. I have on a few occasions taped my husband just so he can see how loud he really is. I have called his cell and left him messages of him snoring. I did it for 2 weeks straight once when he was upset..poor baby, that I wasnt sleeping with him. He got the message but hasnt gone to a doctor.
I thought about and even bought earplugs but, I was to scared to use them. He is a heavy sleeper and I was nervous that either one of us would hear if one of the kids needed us…me. I know if i used them I would never fall asleep.

I would just keep trying to get him to see a doctor, tape him. Does he realize how loud he really is. You could tape him then when it was time for him to go to bed put the tape on just so he can see how awful it is to sleep next to him. I think I may try that! Everytime he wakes you up, wake him up. Have another talk with him about his snoring, tell him how unbearable it is and that everytime he wakes you up you are going to wake him up. He will get pissed!!! mine does but, he will know how it feels.

I am so excited, my husband is going away for 5 days next week. I will get to sleep like a rock for the first time in a looong time. For me it hasnt ruined our relationship…I am not planning on divorcing him but it does have an effect, I get really angry. AND..he makes comments on the weekend that I sleep in…boohoo.

I feel for you! I wish I had a solution for both of us.

]]> By: La Beba http://www.peltoreardefenders.com/can-sleep-deprivation-ruin-a-relationship.php/comment-page-1#comment-727 La Beba Mon, 12 Apr 2010 10:40:16 +0000 http://www.peltoreardefenders.com/can-sleep-deprivation-ruin-a-relationship.php#comment-727 He should go see the doctor, snoring is not so good for your health specially your heart. My Dad use to snore like that most of his life, he has heart problems now and the doctor prescribed him a machine with a mask he has to put on every night, that has help him with the snoring because when they snore they stop breathing and that is bad because they could die in their sleep. So if he goes to the doctor is a good thing for you, for him and for your relation. And if he doesn't want to go, film him at night and get more information over the net about snoring and show it to him. Good luck! He should go see the doctor, snoring is not so good for your health specially your heart. My Dad use to snore like that most of his life, he has heart problems now and the doctor prescribed him a machine with a mask he has to put on every night, that has help him with the snoring because when they snore they stop breathing and that is bad because they could die in their sleep. So if he goes to the doctor is a good thing for you, for him and for your relation. And if he doesn’t want to go, film him at night and get more information over the net about snoring and show it to him. Good luck!

]]> By: Sathya M http://www.peltoreardefenders.com/can-sleep-deprivation-ruin-a-relationship.php/comment-page-1#comment-726 Sathya M Mon, 12 Apr 2010 09:46:28 +0000 http://www.peltoreardefenders.com/can-sleep-deprivation-ruin-a-relationship.php#comment-726 It is quite common thing for the human being, and if not so it is welcomed. One can not restrict/correct this kind of problem, instead of that can have some adjustment/arrangement if they want to continue the relationship without soaring. Up to my better experience, I can say that the person who is afftected can go to bed earlier/before to the person who snors. It is quite common thing for the human being, and if not so it is welcomed. One can not restrict/correct this kind of problem, instead of that can have some adjustment/arrangement if they want to continue the relationship without soaring. Up to my better experience, I can say that the person who is afftected can go to bed earlier/before to the person who snors.

]]> By: Yolanda T http://www.peltoreardefenders.com/can-sleep-deprivation-ruin-a-relationship.php/comment-page-1#comment-725 Yolanda T Mon, 12 Apr 2010 09:05:20 +0000 http://www.peltoreardefenders.com/can-sleep-deprivation-ruin-a-relationship.php#comment-725 Being sleep deprives makes you dysfunctional in so many ways. Most noticeably to other people, you may become more irritable and short tempered, and spouses are likely to get the brunt of it because they are around you all the time. Try to find out why he doesn't want to do the surgery. Is he scared? Is he worried about getting a bill? Try to be compassionate, but explain that you feel his unwillingness to help you deal with this issue is making you feel hurt and resentful. And this may sound odd and inappropriate, but sleeping in seperate rooms may save your sanity and your relationship. Sure it's unconventional but who cares. What difference does it make that you're sleeping in the same bed if while you're awake you can't stand each other. Best wishes Being sleep deprives makes you dysfunctional in so many ways. Most noticeably to other people, you may become more irritable and short tempered, and spouses are likely to get the brunt of it because they are around you all the time. Try to find out why he doesn’t want to do the surgery. Is he scared? Is he worried about getting a bill? Try to be compassionate, but explain that you feel his unwillingness to help you deal with this issue is making you feel hurt and resentful. And this may sound odd and inappropriate, but sleeping in seperate rooms may save your sanity and your relationship. Sure it’s unconventional but who cares. What difference does it make that you’re sleeping in the same bed if while you’re awake you can’t stand each other.

Best wishes

]]> By: That's not my name http://www.peltoreardefenders.com/can-sleep-deprivation-ruin-a-relationship.php/comment-page-1#comment-724 That's not my name Mon, 12 Apr 2010 08:21:49 +0000 http://www.peltoreardefenders.com/can-sleep-deprivation-ruin-a-relationship.php#comment-724 He should see a doctor, he could have sleep apnea. My husband was a terrible snorer, although it never really bothered me. But I knew it was possibly bad for his health, and he finally went to do a sleep study and then to an ear, nose, and throat doctor. He is now wearing a mask for the sleep apnea and doesn't snore at all. He is also going to hopefully have surgery at some point for his deviated septum. I can't imagine sleep deprivation actually ruining a marriage, and I'm sure if your toddler was crying, you'd hear her no matter what. The bigger issue is him not caring that it bothers you. He should see a doctor, he could have sleep apnea. My husband was a terrible snorer, although it never really bothered me. But I knew it was possibly bad for his health, and he finally went to do a sleep study and then to an ear, nose, and throat doctor. He is now wearing a mask for the sleep apnea and doesn’t snore at all. He is also going to hopefully have surgery at some point for his deviated septum.

I can’t imagine sleep deprivation actually ruining a marriage, and I’m sure if your toddler was crying, you’d hear her no matter what. The bigger issue is him not caring that it bothers you.

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