Archive for March, 2010

Would you be pissed if…?

Would you pissed if…
Your hubby worked with his ex fiance and this happened:
She walks up to him tonight and says “here hold this” and hands him her purse. So he is standing there holding it while she is digging through it looking for her safety glasses. He is looking at her like ‘umm..’ So she says ” you used to hold my purse for me” Then she puts on her glasses and remembers something. “oh wait! here!” and puts her soda in his jacket pocket and looks through her purse with both hands and pulls out her earplugs and pops them in, takes the soda out of his pocket and walks off.
What do you think? B/c yeah it happened tonight! And i am highly pissed! Hubby thinks I am overracting bc I want to go beat her ass. She always makes reasons to be around him. She doesnt even work in the same dept as him. She goets to work a little before 10 pm and he gets off at 11. She is married with three kids. But I know that she was screwing an old friend of mine about 6 months ago. I hate her!!!!

Annoying Ice Cream Truck ……?

EVERY saturday morning around 8:30 AM there this loud music playing ice cream truck that stops almost in front of my house and waits like 10 minutes to sell popsicles to like 8 kids, and it wakes me up and after its gone and i cant go back to sleep. i tried confronting the guy in the truck and all he did was hold up a “Permit To Operate” sign and then flipped me off. its hard for me to fall asleep wearing earplugs, it just starts getting irritating. so what could i do?
the 2nd guy who answered:
very creative but im sure now everyone knows the truck only runs on Saturday mornings and plus i work a night shift.
person #4 :
im afraid i may have to go with the pills, its just i wouldnt need them if that truck would come in the afternoons. i have talked to a few neighbors and they are getting annoyed with it too, we might wind up going to the mayor with this one.

Hello again, I have posted a question before but I’d like some solid advice.

My daughter does not like anyone touching her, does not like to be bothered and spends all of her time alone even when we have company. It is as if she lives in her own little world. Amongst other things, I’ve found quite disturbing images on her computer.

Today, I was looking at her calendar on her iPod to check out when her driver’s ed appointment was, and I saw written “kill self” as a task for yesterday. Of course she didn’t, but I found that a bit odd to place on a calendar.

Last night she, my husband and I were having an argument over dinner. It lasted around two hours, she was in bed the entire time because when my husband started trying to reason with her over dinner, she was already in bed. This was around 10:30. It ended shortly before 1 AM, and my husband and I went to bed around half an hour later. As I passed by her room, I could hear her crying violently (yet not loud enough to be heard except right outside her door) and whispering what sounded like “please kill me,” to herself. I don’t know how long this went on but I went into her room before I went to work in the morning and she was not crying.

She argues constantly and is constantly belittling me. It really takes a toll on my self-esteem. I am a bit sensitive and she knows that, yet she never stops arguing, she has even said on a few occasions that she hates me. She wakes me up when I’m meant to go to work, claiming that she feels sick but can’t talk loud enough for me to hear (I wear earplugs in the morning) explaining it, so when I tell her to speak up she just leaves. She does this multiple times and after a while, I admit I get very angry. I have said things about her being worthless, lazy, trashy, sl*tty and that I hate living with her but it was always after an argument. When I do get physical with her it rarely leaves bruises, if it does they are usually not even very large. I’ve played mind games with her and manipulated memories she has but the reason I am saying this is because I am a changed person. I am getting help and have been in therapy for two months.

Anyway, I have no idea what to do with my daughter. I’ve been logging her chats for the past few weeks and she’s still talking to the older men, I’ve even found some disgusting personal pictures of theirs on her Received Files folder. I have no idea if she sends them anything, but I don’t know how to stop all of this. Kids need the internet, they need their internet, if not for fun for school.

My daughter is 16 now, almost an adult. Any advice appreciated. If you want more information, here is my older question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ApSRz3YrXOb2RAIpxGU3TELty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090622083613AAtYlcN
wits**

i have been dating my bf for 3.5 years now. i’m 29 w/3 girls ages 9,7,and 6 from previous marriage. he’s 30 never married, no kids.

this past saturday-my oldest had a meltdown due to being overtired. the first issue w/my bf was he tried to take the easy out and let her sleep in our room on the floor-i said no. after this, he told me since he had to work sunday night-he was putting earplugs in and going to bed. I struggled w/my daughter for 45 more mins before calling her dad. I realize it was a mistake and I should have tried harder to get her to sleep.

my bf assured me everything was fine before I left sunday to go back to my house like i always do b/c he works and i don’t. he said everything was ok and he loved me.

monday-i stop by his house to get some stuff I left that I needed and found out he had disabled my garage door opener. he ignored my phone calls and me ringing the doorbell so i left.

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i finally reached him on tuesday when i stopped by the house while he was at a dr’s appt. he came home before I could leave and called me refusing to come inside. he said for me to get what I needed then he would come in. when I questioned why he was acting so childish he said he was stressed out,had taken too much and didnt want to talk about it. I got mad and told him he lied to me about everything being ok and made my daughter think it was her fault. he again said he didnt want to talk about it but was sorry he’d upset my daughter. he said he needed time to relax and hung up.

we haven’t talked since. i’ve tried emailing him but he won’t check them (but doesn’t delete them either).

i don’t understand why he runs from problems instead of talking them out?!!

growing up his mom never really told him no and let him do whatever he wanted. his rents divorced when he was 6 but they both remarried.

how do i fix this-we love each other and 98% of the time have good times

Im getting an MRI Monday?

Hi. So about 2 weeks ago i got diagnosed with Hyperprolactemia. Long story short, im 21, i have no kids and i have NEVER been pregnant. I got diagnosed with Hyperprolactemia through some blood work. I guess the doctor thinks i might have a pituitary adenoma because i have to go get an MRI done this coming monday.
The problem is that i just realized that im SCARED of getting the MRI. I saw how they put you in that tube machine thingy and omg it just totally freaked me out. My friend told me that they put headphones and earplugs so you cant hear the noises and you can ask them to put something over your eyes so you cant see. But that freaked me out even more. I cant stay still for 40-60 minutes! i dont know what to do now, i HAVE to go get the MRI done. But is there anything that i can do to make myself more comfortable? I tried to relax about it but i just think about it and i feel like i cant breathe! Cant they give me some medication or something?
I dont know what to do! help!
i have only talked to the lady over the phone when i made the appointment. i told her i wasnt scared..but i guess i am.
Im planning to drive there. should i have someone drive me instead?

I HATE mouth noises. Chewing, snapping gum, crunchy noises…anything of the sort makes me want to go crazy and start beating the person or throw their food in their face. I usually have to leave the room. I sleep in earplugs to drown out all noise or I can not sleep. I have been this way for years. My dad is like this too, we were a “no gum” household growing up. I am so afraid of having kids that brest feed and when they are learning to eat with their new teeth- OH GOD!! for some reason hearing my dog eat does not bother me but i want to slap my fiance when he does it and he doesnt even chew that loud! Is there a name for this condition? If im in class and the girl next to me is chewing gum, I have to plug my closest ear with my finger to even attempt to concentrate. Its horrible!! My fiance wants me to get over it, and i wish i could but i cant. Does anyone has any advice? I have read about OCD and misophonia. Sounds like I could have that. Are there any cures? Did hypnotherapy work for anyone else with this issue?
yes granny- i realize this but i can not shrug it off. it makes me want to explode, I fill with rage and it causes extreme anxiety. You obviously do not feel this way but there are others who do. Its not something you just forget about, if I could do that do you think I would be posting this here?
and i always have the tv on when we eat together but i still hear him, its like i pick it out of the white noise. If im sitting close to someone in a restaurant and there is no music on i cant enjoy my meal and think about nothing but when will this person leave?!

SOUNDPROOFING EMERGENCY?

My landlord has two small kids who live above me and there is no soundproofing. To give you an idea of the level of noise here’s the situation: The oldest’s boys’ bedroom is above mine and the master bedroom is above my livingroom; every day the kids run and jump above my head for hours, in the mornings I can hear the opening and closing of the dressers and closests as they dress; and, I wear earplugs with the greatest sound reduction number of 33, keep the overhead exhaust fan above the stove in the bathroom on, and have the TV volume up very loudly and still I can hear the thumping and running.

What will sound proof my apartment so that I can have peace and quiet?
First, of all what makes you think I haven’t talked with them? Secondly, I know it’s not my responsibility to pay for the physical changes. And, thirdly, moving is NOT an option.
Any and all legalities are not valid as you live in one place and I live in another, and the laws are different for every state or province. There are laws where I live in regards to noise, and the landlord has not brought the structure of the building up to standard. So, comments on this matter are invalid, unless you live in the exact same place as I do.

I want to know what is physically required to dull this noise level to a more livable one.

Problems with upstairs neighbor?

My husband and I live in the bottom half of a rental house in Texas, and we have an obnoxious upstairs neighbor. My husband works the night shift, so we sleep during the day (which our landlord knows). We explained to both the realtor and the landlord prior to our moving in that we need a QUIET place to live — I have multiple disabilities that cause a great deal of constant pain as well as exhaustion, and I don’t sleep well much of the time as it is. However, the landlord let this tenant move in a few months ago We have had continual problems with this neighbor, beginning when she moved in at 2am. She has a toddler that lives with her part of the time (more and more lately, it seems), and the child tears up and down, stomping and screaming and continually dropping objects on the hard floors (we don’t hate children by any means). Lately, this woman apparently has been babysitting multiple kids who are so loud upstairs that we can’t concentrate, read, watch our own TV, or sleep without earplugs. Sometimes she baby sits late into the evening (11pm). My husband spoke to her a few weeks ago about the noise, and she assured him that she was babysitting for only another hour or so and the kids would be gone — but for the last few days she has been babysitting again; and this is now the second day in a row we’ve had to deal with this noise from stomping and shrieking and screaming. I am a nervous wreck. Contacting the landlord has been pointless; he claims he’ll do something, but he doesn’t. I’ve considered having him come and listen to the noise, but that won’t work, because he’s extremely hard of hearing. I hate to complain, but this has really gotten out of hand — we believe in “live and let live”. All we’ve EVER wanted was peace, quiet, and someone who is a considerate neighbor.This woman is none of these things.
I’ve tried to search for legal precedents that might apply to our situation, but I have no clue what to search for. I guess legally anything she does in her own apartment is fine under the law — but what are OUR rights? Do I have to continue to get more and more stressed out, wear earpugs to bed every day, and constantly wear my MP3 player to block the noise? I’ve even cranked our television to maximum volume, and it’s still impossible to concentrate. This doesn’t seem right to me.
I need to find out what our rights are, if we have any — and how we deal with this. We can’t afford to move anytime soon by any means, so we’re stuck here for at least another year or three.
HELP!
Just an FYI, I can’t live upstairs. As I said, I’m disabled; I can’t go up and down stairs.
We can’t afford to move antime soon, unfortunately. It will be at least a couple of years before we are able to.

either stops working for a day or 2 or has a loud beep for a while, I friggin hate wearing earplugs like im at a gun range
i know my left ear now works less than half,i dont really shoot much anymore. i think it’s just from all the abuse it took while i was in the navy, right ears good though.
thanks for the advice, hey I was young and dumb and really know how horrible it is to have a bum ear,it throws your whole equalibrium off,and messes your speech all up.i really feel for deaf people. I think my left has always been more sensitive,i remember popping fire crackers when i was around 6 and my left ear would ring for a day or so. I atleast now have an appreciation for hearing now and am pretty sure i’ll wear some kind of ppe for my ears in the future,thanks for the suggestions, I now realize why I hate actors in movies shooting guns all over the place without a care in the world, cause it’s some fake a#% sh#$!!

did I do something wrong? if so, how to fix?

been with wonderful boyfriend for 3 and half years. he’s 30 no kids, never married. i’m 29 w/3 girls ages 9,7,and 6 (and he knew that from day one-took on my kids w/wonderful grace and patience).

my 9 year old had a meltdown from being too tired this past saturday. when she first started to cry, my bf let me stay in bed and went to calm her down. she told him she was scared so he brought her into our room to sleep on the floor-I told him no b/c I felt she was too old for it. after being shot down, he decided since he had to work sunday night, that he was going to bed and I could decide what to do with her. i put her back in her room and for the next 2 hours she screamed at the top of her lungs (waking her 2 sisters and disturbing the neighbors) and even tried to run out of our garage. I stormed into the bedroom and yelled at my bf for not helping me control her (he had earplugs in and said he couldn’t hear her but got up to help).
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he even went to the bank to get me money for gas in my car and power at my apt b/c my daughter wanted to go back there (i said no while he was gone though). we finally ended up having her dad come get her so we all could sleep (her included). I cried for a while after she left b/c I felt bad and was worried she had scared him off. he assured me everything was ok and she was just being a kid.

I woke up the next morning still upset and in tears. I was afraid once we left that morning to go back to my house-he’d take “space” or want to break up. he rubbed my back and said it was ok. he then told me he loved me and I left w/my other daughters.

Now all of a sudden he won’t talk to me. I tried to stop by his house yesterday to get my daughter’s cheer uniform out of her closet and he had disabled my garage door opener. when he finally called me (to tell me I could get some of my stuff while he was gone) he told me he’d had too much and needed some rest time.

what did i do?!!
i told him my daughter was scared that he hated her and she was never going to see him again-he said no that wasn’t true.

all he would tell me was to get what I needed from his house, he’d had too much and needed to rest, and didnt want to talk about it then hung up on me w/out even saying he loved me.

why tell me everything is fine then the very next day be mad at me?!!

he’s not cheating-my stuff and the kids’ stuff is all over the house-too much to hide and he would’ve had me get it all if he wanted to break up.

Rate my character’s spells.?

Since it didn’t get any answers the first time, I’m re-posting it for feedback. For the last time: I used to be Wiccan, and I’m aware these spells are not true spells, I created them. They are holy (and demon) spells created for my D.Gray-Man fanfiction. It is a manga/anime about Akumas (demons) and Exorcists (holy fighters who destroy them). Innocence is the power that Exorcists possess to destroy the Akuma, who are trying to kill all humans.
Please rate my spells which are ENTIRELY made up by myself, and are fictional.
D.Gray-Man and it’s characters (Lavi, Allen) are not created by me. Shiranani is created by me, and is part Exorcist and Akuma. Feel free to use these spells in any D.Gray-man fanfictions or any other story.

These are the spells he already has and please note, he doesn’t get them all at once:

Dragon’s Triumph: This is a low level spell that creates the image of a dragon in fire, similar to one of Lavi’s hammer spells.

Rain of Fire: This is a low level spell that rains down “firehail” on the Akuma.

Field of Fire: This is a protection spell that creates a ring of fire around Shiranai and his allies.

Blessed Rains: This is a healing spell that heals minor injuries of Shiranai and his allies. Can not revive the dead, and is only effective if the target is awakened.

Mirror Of Light: This is a medium level spell which creates a mirror image of the Akuma, which attacks the Akuma. The only problem is that Shiranai’s soul is temporarily switched into the image’s body, so he cannot move or defend himself. Also, the injuries the image gets is inflicted on Shiranai.

Holy Wall: This is a defense spell that creates a wall that an Akuma can not get though without doing great damage to itself.

Akuma Bullet: This is… the Akuma bullet, of course. The bullet shoots out of Shiranai’s hand, and the human it hits is infected with Akuma blood.

Black Span: This creates a poisonous fog, although it can be avoided with masks or handkerchiefs. Still, this will force the enemy to let it’s guard down, giving Shiranai a moment to attack.
Tiger’s Claw: This spell is not really a spell at all, it just lengthens Shiranai’s nails, and gives him a more powerful blow.

Akuma’s leech: This spell will leech the human’s life force away, and heal Shiranai in return. The power of the spell depends on how much damage Shiranai has taken: the more damage he has taken, the more life he’ll need to suck away.

Exorcism: Exorcism is just like one of Allen’s spells with his evolved Akuma hand. It creates a cross of light that destroys level one and level two Akumas in one hit.

Anti-Akuma’s Curse: This is a curse that slowly turns the Akumas insane, eventually causing them to self destruct. The curse takes awhile to work though.

Scream of Tainted Souls: This spell works more as a distraction then anything. The noise of the scream is so piercing, the Akumas can no longer fight, and their defenses and powers will weaken. It also works on humans though, so unless his allies have earplugs, it’s not the most used spell.

The Chain of Blood- This spell will sacrifice Shiranai’s innocence, but will also destroy literally everything he targets, causing them to turn inside out and then explode. He targets using chains of light.

what did I do wrong? how do I fix it?

been with wonderful boyfriend for 3 and half years. he’s 30 no kids, never married. i’m 29 w/3 girls ages 9,7,and 6 (and he knew that from day one-took on my kids w/wonderful grace and patience).

my 9 year old had a meltdown from being too tired this past saturday. when she first started to cry, my bf let me stay in bed and went to calm her down. she told him she was scared so he brought her into our room to sleep on the floor-I told him no b/c I felt she was too old for it. after being shot down, he decided since he had to work sunday night, that he was going to bed and I could decide what to do with her. i put her back in her room and for the next 2 hours she screamed at the top of her lungs (waking her 2 sisters and disturbing the neighbors) and even tried to run out of our garage. I stormed into the bedroom and yelled at my bf for not helping me control her (he had earplugs in and said he couldn’t hear her but got up to help).
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he even went to the bank to get me money for gas in my car and power at my apt b/c my daughter wanted to go back there (i said no while he was gone though). we finally ended up having her dad come get her so we all could sleep (her included). I cried for a while after she left b/c I felt bad and was worried she had scared him off. he assured me everything was ok and she was just being a kid.

I woke up the next morning still upset and in tears. I was afraid once we left that morning to go back to my house-he’d take “space” or want to break up. he rubbed my back and said it was ok. he then told me he loved me and I left w/my other daughters.

Now all of a sudden he won’t talk to me. I tried to stop by his house yesterday to get my daughter’s cheer uniform out of her closet and he had disabled my garage door opener. when he finally called me (to tell me I could get some of my stuff while he was gone) he told me he’d had too much and needed some rest time.

what did i do?!!
i told him my daughter was scared that he hated her and she was never going to see him again-he said no that wasn’t true.

all he would tell me was to get what I needed from his house, he’d had too much and needed to rest, and didnt want to talk about it then hung up on me w/out even saying he loved me.

why tell me everything is fine then the very next day be mad at me?!!

he’s not cheating-my stuff and the kids’ stuff is all over the house-too much to hide and he would’ve had me get it all if he wanted to break up

This Bird Is Driving Me Nuts!!?

Ok, the idiot thing starts singing its fool lungs out at friggin 2:00 AM, and doesn’t stop until well past sunrise. It’s loud, obnoxious, and right next to my window somewhere. (Some tree nearby no doubt) It sounds just like robin song but I know of no robin that retarded. Could it be a mockingbird? I know they mimic the song of other birds and sounds, and they stay up at night.

Does anybody know anything about birds that would help me identify this pest and control the racket in a humane manner? I mean to say, I don’t want to shoot the beast out of the tree or anything, but is there anything else I can do to evict him? He’s awful! Or at least, if anyone has knowledge of birds, can you tell me if this is a temporary phase, and if so, how long does it last? Thanks.

Here’s to the earplugs for now…

this november, ii’m going to the Love Drunk tour to see Boys Like Girls,The Maine,Cobra Starship,A Rocket To The Moon,and Versa Emerge.
ii’m either going to go with my mom or my brother(18 yrs.) , ii’m getting GA tickets and the show is on a Sunday. the thing is, i wanna buy tons of merch like tees and sweaters and stuff like that from some of the bands but i’ve never been to a concert before so i dont know how things work.!
like , how much are t-shirts and sweaters and all that stuff and where are merch stands at concerts?like where are they usually located?different room,the samee?i have no cluee. also, are you allowed to go buy merch before and during the concert?like,let’s say you dont really like one of the bands that are performing at the time,are you allowed to go get merch or can you just by merch before or after the concerts?

Oh,and i doubt it but do you think there’s gonna be moshing at that concert?if you dont know them, they’re not screamo bands or anything like that and they dont play hardcore music but i’m asking just incase?

One more thing, my mom said that if she comes she’s going to bring earplugs so that she doesnt really hear anything, but do you think that’ll be weird??like do parents usually go to concerts like that with their kids?i just dont want it to be awkwarddd :\ .oh,and do you think she’ll still be able to hear really well with earplugs cuz one o the bands(The Maine)has a few songs about sex so if she hears,she’ll get REALLLY pissed off XD .

ANY other stuff you have to say about concerts / merch feel free to say anything cuz it’ll helpp .

thanksssss <3 :) !!!!!

The weapons of our troops?

i belong to a gun club and i shoot shotguns and rifles and i know that they are very loud but i wear large earmuffs to protect my ears. The weapons in the army are much more powerful than a .22 rifle or a .20 shotgun, do people in the army go deaf from just firing their weapon or do they have ear protection in their helmets?

What is the best hearing protection ?

My daughter has cerebral palsy but has hunted with me and her brother for years. Her condition causes her to be startled by sudden loud noises very easily. She hate the gun range and refuses to go. She shoots a bb gun with a red dot scope at home and is ready to move to a 22 but I need the best thing to muffle the sound thats available. She jumps so bad at loud noises that she nearly jumps out of her chair when I shoot from our blind. We currently use earplugs plus and muff type protection. Is there anything better?

How to quiet very noisy neighbors?

I recently moved into an off-campus apartment with evidently noisy neighbors. I’m a new student with very difficult classes and my day starts early. I’ve never had a class before 9am in years, and now I have to wake up at 6am everyday!

The apartment is nice, in a great location, and it’s generally quiet…except after 10pm. After 10pm all the rowdy kids with probably bullsh*t majors have parties and hang out outside.

It upsets me how little common decency these kids have for the other complex tenants! I can handle loud talking but these kids scream and laugh loudly until 4am–perhaps even later. It got so bad that I had to leave my room and sleep in the living room (which wasn’t much better). I’ve used earplugs, I’ve banged on my windows and walls and yelled, “Excuse me!” to them, but nothing seems to work. I don’t want to get too nasty because my window is on the first floor facing the outside lounge, so they could easily harass me directly.

I would complain to management, but can the managers really do anything? Please help! The school year just started and already I’m feeling so frustrated and overwhelmed.
Purdey: Haha, I was thinking of just screaming at the top of my lungs when I wake up at 6am. Knowing them, they probably aren’t up before 3pm.

Thanks everyone. I’ll sneak around tonight and try to see which apartment it is then tell management.

My suitemate won’t shut the f*ck up! Help?

I have told her that she was loud before. I even had the dorm authority talk to her about her loudness. She talks so freaking loud of her cell phone. She can’t help it. She just has a big loud voice and I wish she could shut her big fat f*cking mouth. I wear earplugs and can still kinda hear her. What can I do. Shoot her? I think she’s a little hard of hearing. I give up.

I live in an older apartment building, the walls are pretty thin. The neighbors next door had a baby maybe 6-7 months ago and they keep it (no clue if its a boy or a girl, I’ve never spoken to them. I don’t think they speak English) in the room that is directly on the other side of the wall of my bedroom. So I probly sleep closer to the baby than the parents do since my matress is right next to the wall.

Now I don’t like kids, and I especially don’t like little babies. But I understand that newborns cry so I dealt with many sleepless nights even though I’m not the one with the kid for the first few months. Now I’m thinking that the parents have reached the phase where the let the kid cry itself out because they used to stop it after a couple minutes. Now it goes on for half an hour, 45 minutes, maybe longer (I get up and leave the apartment at that point because baby crying sounds are like nails on a chalkboard to me). This happens several times a day as well as during the night. How long should the baby be allowed to cry before some effort is made to stop it?

Please don’t tell me to buy earplugs - I tried that and slept through my alarm and was late for work. And I live in a one bedroom apartment so it’s not like I can sleep somewhere else until the baby gets old enough to not cry and scream for so long for so often.
I feel weird talking to these people since we’ve never spoken to each other at all.

I imagine its not fun for them either, but they chose to have a kid, not me.

Can you recommend a better pair of ear muffs?

Hi, I’m going to get a pair of ear muffs to take to the shooting range. I found these ear muffs (only about $20)

http://www.coopersafety.com/item/101034/Bilsom-Leightning-L3-Headband-Earmuffs.aspx

Do you guys know if there is a better pair of ear muffs IN THAT GENERAL PRICE RANGE? I know that for $200, I could probably get something better. But in that general price range, do you know if there is anything better? I don’t want to go over $30. And yes, I will be wearing the foam inserts in addition to the ear muffs. I would really appreciate some guidance.

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